How to Deal with Insults, Triggers, and Shiny Object Syndrome

April 26, 2017

What comes to mind when you think of the words “Shiny object syndrome?”

Something like this:

  • All over the place
  • So many things, but never finished
  • Giant list of things to do that you’ll never catch up on
  • Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
  • Oooo, exciting and helpful resources for FREE or cheap!!
  • Can’t keep focused on one thing so I never get ANYTHING done 100%

Mostly bad stuff, though, right? It’s something that’s better to NOT have.

In the online business industry, if you’ve got shiny object syndrome then you’ve got a PROBLEM, not a gift. We all agree on that.

So yea, what happens when a high-digit multiple figure coach gets on a live group coaching video call, and openly says when it’s my turn,

“Rochelle, I feel like your business is a shiny object business.”

Not a compliment, right?

And yet… I wasn’t offended.

I’ve been told by my life coach (a different one, not this particular business coach) that I’m really good at being self aware, which is something other people don’t pick up so easily. I think that’s why I can be so feisty and spicy and not give a shit what people think.

Okay fine, most of the time I don’t care. I don’t like hurting peoples feelings on purpose but I also don’t like to caudle and pretend it’s okay to hide and stay safe in your little “broke as fuck” bubble. Blame it on the half-horse half-man #sagittarius personality. 😉

Two lessons learned from the “almost insult”

#1 Getting triggered and questioning yourself isn’t always a bad thing.

I did have a moment of “who the flip are you to say that,” but only for a split second. Cause in a way she was right. I can bust out a mean freebie in very little time and get people to sign up for it. That’s exactly what a lead magnet is. If your lead magnet isn’t shiny, no one will notice it glinting in all the BS out there. Just sayin’.

But I also know I provide value that’s so much more than just a one-off shiny object for everyone. In fact, I’m CONSTANTLY telling people to stop signing up for every freebie, stop getting suckered into high ticket packages you weren’t already searching for. I know that if people stick around and take my advice, major shifts can happen.

It actually felt pretty good to re-affirm all that to myself while I consider her words. Re-affirming something inside yourself is always a good thing!


#2 You gotta have a thick skin and some MAJOR big-ball confidence to hack it as an online entrepreneur.

Going into business for yourself is NOT for the faint of heart. You can’t let every offensive thing on the internet offend you.

Also, not everyone is out to get you.

Not everyone who says something offensive is evil.

And… your triggers are your responsibility.

There, I said it.

Jack Canfield once used the analogy in a workshop where he said “If someone came up to you and said, ‘You have green hair,” would you be offended?”

The answer, of course, is no. Because you know it’s not true. (Unless you have green hair, in which case, awesome! And you still wouldn’t be offended.)

Same goes for when people say things that trigger you.

If it’s not true, it doesn’t mean a damn thing.

But if it triggers you, that’s probably something to look into.

By the way, that analogy is something I learned back in 2013 from the Audio CD “Maximum Confidence by Jack Canfield” {affiliate link} and, I know people throw this a lot, but it changed my life.

That audio book made me quit my cushy high paying, fully benefitted job in Napa (yes, that Napa) and dive into my first venture as an entrepreneur.

It’s powerful stuff.

It’s a little corny at times (what old recording isn’t, ya know?) but if you can get past that, it’s a REALLY good one to keep on hand.


Be confident in your decisions. If you don’t feel confident, ask for help. If you don’t know who to ask for help, start with me because obviously. 🙂

And if you’re not in my free Facebook group yet, get in here:

Okay, time for Behind-The-Scenes stuff!

Some changes are happening in the Now’s Your Chance universe (that’s my business name, by the way). I truly believe everyone deserves a chance to make money in a way that makes you feel good.

It should feel good to do the work.

It should feel good to market yourself.

It should feel good to private message someone and tell them what you do, without feeling like a slime ball.

My specialty is in getting you up and running so you can get to that point. Even if you feel like you’re totally lost, uber distracted, and maybe suspect you might be distracting yourself from the REAL issue by staying buried in all the tech crap.

Two things to consider if you think you may want to work with me:

The $97 Convertkit Setup will be increasing in price. If you’re not familiar, it’s where I do all the setup for your first email sequence, PDF lead magnet, and landing page in Convertkit, PLUS I give you a custom video walkthrough of your account, how it works, and baby steps on what to do next. But you can only get it for $97 until April 30th, so if you’ve been waiting, then now’s the time to jump! It’s moving up to $197 next month.

Don’t freak out.

If it’s not the right time, it’s not the right time. Don’t worry. 🙂

Also: Enrollment for Super Besties in Business is CLOSING on April 30th. This is your last chance to get in for $147 for all-up-in-your-business, “nearly 1:1” mentoring with me through June 30th, plus access to the mega library of resources AND everything I produce between now and June for FREE. Deadline to snatch that deal is April 30th as well.

By the way, yes, I will be relaunching Super Besties later this year. But it will be a different format, named a different name, packed with MORE resources, and yes, cost more. But Super Besties will get an exclusive “lifetime access” discount AND an opportunity to make some affiliate commissions when I launch that.

I’ll remind you again in my Saturday email. 🙂 I just don’t want to catch you off guard, since I know that investing money takes time and a certain comfort level to accept the help you need right now.

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Deep breath. I know that was a lot of information for one blog post.

Whatever you do, feel confident in your decisions. Don’t let people trigger you. Do everything you can to make sure this business you’re building feels AMAZING so you can keep it up and make lots of money, long term.

I believe in you!


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